The Science of Self-Care

Bottom line: If you don’t mindfully give yourself Permission to prioritize time for your own self-care, no one else will.
— Michelle Segar, Ph.D.

Mothers have a hard time taking care of themselves. I know this, because I’m a mom of 3. I love to nurture and care for others, but it’s hard to turn that attention inwards. Sometimes, it even feels wrong. But over the years, I’ve learned that it’s important to make self-care a priority each and every day. 


At first, this may feel like a struggle. How could you possibly fit one more thing into your already busy schedule? The key lies in finding your why. 


When we make “weight loss” or “getting healthy” the reason for eating better or exercising, research has shown that 75% of us fail. No wonder the business of health and weight loss is a billion dollar industry! These reasons are not an effective way of motivating change. 
So what does work? With Mother’s Day approaching, I thought this would be the perfect time to share my little secret with you: MOFA (or Motivating Factor).


Your MOFA helps you uncover the right why or reason to get motivated and stay motivated. When you’re motivated, you see green smoothies and a jog as a gift, not a chore. And what’s better than a daily gift? 


As Dr. Michelle Segar tells us: “human beings, it turns out, are hardwired to choose immediate gratification over long-term benefits”. Therefore, having the right mindset is critical. 
Here’s how finding your MOFA works: 


“Why do you want to exercise?”
“Because I want to lose weight.”
“Why do you want to lose weight?”
“Because I will look better and feel better.”
“Why is looking better and feeling better important to you?”
“I would have more energy and I could fit into my jeans again.”
“And what would more energy and fitting into your jeans do for you?”
“I would feel joyful and confident. And I’d have the energy to be the mom I want to be.” 

In this instance, exercise leads to joy, confidence and a more meaningful relationship with family. That’s the MOFA! 


If you’re curious about what a self-care routine looks like, below is a snapshot of my morning habits. I’m motivated to do this every day from 5-11am, because I get instant gratification from it.

My Self-Care Routine:

  • Rise at 5am. Pray, meditate and do my morning gratitudes.
  • Read or listen to a favourite motivational or nutritional book for 20 minutes.  
  • Practice five Sun Salutations.
  • Have my decaffeinated bulletproof coffee with my husband. 
  • Prepare a ferment-rich breakfast.
  • Research and write. 
  • Meet a friend for a work out.


Your Turn:

  • Carve 30-minutes to an hour out of your schedule to find your MOFA. 
  • Select 1 or 2 self-care steps that would bring you closer to your greater intention. 
  • Maintain a self-care practice for a week and see how you feel. 
  • If you get stuck along the way, email me. I would love to help you find your MOFA. 

Happy Mother’s Day!